Accept One Another


My beautiful daughter in a quiet moment.

Romans 15:7 was the first Christian song I ever wrote. Sitting on a bus. Just a tune to go with the scripture. Every time I want to say the verse, I dredge up the tune and dust it off.  I was reminded of it the other morning when I read a blog post over at Becoming His Tapestry. The blog post was called So You Think I’m Nice …..   Brenda talked about how our expectations often change the way we treat others, particularly our children. I was reading through the comments below and one of the comments from Debrah over at Ageless at Sixty  was, “I think when we just accept people as they are, we get along a lot better.”

Immediately I thought of Romans 15:7,

Accept one another then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.

I, of course, had had another run in with my 5 year old that morning. I really struggle with preschoolers. I became a primary teacher, not a pre-school teacher, on purpose. Very  intentionally I avoided the preschool years. Little did I know that God would give me preschoolers in my home for 12 straight years and I would serve on preschool rosters at church for much of that time. If I’d known I would have done the training. It would have done me good.

It’s their emotional responses, their complete lack of rational thought and their egocentrism, combined with their need to play all the time, learn all the time and be the boss. It’s relentless. Combined with my low energy and intrinsic need for peace it’s like living with construction work. Although there is an end in sight and each new step of the way is wonderful, the tears, like prolonged jackhammers, can do your head in.

I know as a parent I am in the position to be a coach providing just the right combination of encouragement, support, and guidance. But who does that all the time? I have days when I really need God’s help because I am in no position to provide anything. So the other day when I read Brenda’s blog post I looked up Romans for some help ‘accepting’ my daughter’s mood swings and complaints and there was my answer from God.

Romans 15: 1-7 says,

We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves.  Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up.  For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written: “The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me.” For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope.

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had,  so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.

My bearing with my daughter’s mood swings is to build her up. As a mum, as a sister in Christ, I am not in the relationship to please myself. Nor am I to be buried under her complaints and arguments without hope. My daughter’s insults will not fall on me, they have already fallen on Christ who has nailed them to the cross.  They are forgiven. My endurance is from Christ who went before to encourage us both and to give us hope for our future. The same attitude of endurance and encouragement that Christ had is mine, plus the gentle way he trains. He gives it to me so that both my daughter and I will, with one mind and one voice, glorify his Father God.

Accept, Endure, Encourage, Advocate, Train. – with the mind of Christ.

This is me preaching to myself for the war is not won, there are battles to come. God help me I need your endurance and your encouragement.

Have you ever struggled to accept your children when they did not meet your expectations? I encourage you to ask boldly, expectantly, along with me, that God will give us the mind and the eyes of Christ to look at our children. Christ who accepted us before we deserved his acceptance and loved us enough to cover over our sin.


5 Comments Add yours

  1. Lauren Macdonald says:

    After I wrote this post my daughter began a tirade at me and I found myself talking to Jesus, “Thank you for taking this insult for me.” In that moment, I began to marvel at the gravity of what Christ did for us on the Cross. That one little insult, multiplied over three years had worn me down to the point of despair, I suddenly imagined the weight of the insults on Christ. Imagine the heaviness he felt and forgave on the cross, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.” And all the while I was marvelling, the tirade ended, and feeling listened to, she perked up and began to sing songs about Jesus, that she learned in her school scripture class.
    Thank you Jesus.

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  2. A friend once told me to take every opportunity to teach, lower the expectations, always be prepared. Choose disciplinary measures and exercise them. What I found when I was more intentional, more prepared to teach ( look beyond the actions, take note of the heart) God Himself began to change me, to prepare me for battle, even with my strong-willed child. Make the Word of God the standard; not me, because I am fallible. I realized that children want to please God, just at times, not their parents 🙂


    1. Lauren Macdonald says:

      Thank you for your wonderful comment. I really value your words of advice. You are such a wise woman of God. I love that you say they want to please God, just at times, not their parents. It made me smile, it’s very true and in our family and in this particular case I would add just at times not their siblings as that is often the root of our current problems due to a range of developmental stages, levels of understanding and patience. I love that no matter what God is always on all our sides and his desire for us is unity. If we can stay with him he’ll take us there.

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      1. Thank you; to God be the glory. I really found out, when the Word of God was the standard, the girls hastened to obey 😂😂😂 but that’s okay; the Word of God is the final authority anyway

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  3. jonescrew6 says:

    I’m loving your blog Lauren an can relate to what you’re saying. It’s a great reminder to me that Jesus bore SO much more than I’ll ever have to endure! Thanks for the encouragement!

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