Virgins and Weddings


The following is an excerpt from my upcoming book about God and sex. It’s from a Chapter called Virgins and Weddings about God’s blueprint for sex. I hope you are encouraged to get God into your sex life and perhaps, if you want to know more, to read the rest of the book. The book is a testimony, mine, about why God in our sex lives is not weird, it’s necessary.

Be encouraged, be blessed, leave me a comment below if you’d like to read the book!

Lots of love,


“My guy didn’t promise me anything, not beforehand and not afterwards. Nothing. Not even lunch. He didn’t even say he’d call before I backed out the door, with a wad of tissues in my undies, to say goodbye to his parents. He didn’t even walk me to my car.

God’s blueprint for sex is; promises first, sex second.  The first man, Adam, made promises to Eve. He didn’t just find her behind a tree one day and say, “You and me babe, how ’bout it?”

Genesis 2:22-25 says,

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones

and flesh of my flesh;

she shall be called ‘woman,’

for she was taken out of man.”

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

God presented Eve, the first woman, to Adam as a potential wife, God also released Adam, his son, to be a husband to Eve.  Both God and Adam understood that their exclusive Father-son, relationship with each other was about to change. So they had a little public ceremony (the three of them) and Adam made promises; ‘We are one flesh, I give you my name and we will always be together!’ Then Adam and Eve were naked together and felt no shame.

I felt so much shame as I got dressed and I walked out of there. The fact that I had to get dressed and walk out was part of my shame. I wanted to be naked and held for hours. I wanted security and promises, I wanted a home together and not to be afraid of getting pregnant. Instead I had to drive away and go home to my parents while he stayed and watched Oprah with his.

I didn’t know God then. I had no idea that God had a blueprint for sex. I just knew something was missing. If someone had told me in that moment that it was God that was missing I would have laughed and said, “That is weird.” 

But I would have appreciated some honesty, a ceremony and promises from the guy.” 

I’ve released two other excerpts from the book in earlier posts. Click on the links to read them. God and Pronography and God, the Baby and Our Sex Life.

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8 Comments Add yours

  1. Billie Abbott says:

    A brave story to tell, and written so closely to your heart memories….. so sad it is like this for so many…Love Billie

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    1. Lauren Macdonald says:

      Thanks Billie, it’s is sad and it was sad, I tell it because it was also lonely, and I don’t want others to feel so impossibly alone. I want them to know they are loved and cared about and there is someone who sees their hurting heart and can make it whole again. Love to you today, L


      1. Billie Abbott says:

        Yes it is lonely, I had the experience of my first time when I was a practicing born again Christian, which I am
        no longer, and even though I was “loved” by that person, I still felt alone, and I still felt so deeply affected,
        and that I had strayed from God. I did marry that person, but it ended in disaster, which was so very sad
        as well. Love to you L.


      2. Lauren Macdonald says:

        Yes! It affects us so deeply, and even though it is private, I think we need to talk about it. Even though you and I can’t go back, we can heal, and nothing is wasted. Good can come out of it. If we hide our pain and our guilt we bury the rest of ourselves under it. We need to help each other let God back in to all of our lives, so that he can show us the good he has planned for us, even all these years later. Lots of love, L

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  2. Isn’t it amazing the shame felt when we deviate from the Word of God even when we do not know Him? Thank you for sharing, Lauren

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  3. Betty Jo/ The Journey says:

    Thank you for sharing…I was one that didn’t know. I had sex before marriage. yes, personally I had been ashamed as well of a lot. It is good to talk about it. Back then no one would talk about it. It was a No!! No!! Sex isn’t nasty, Sex is truly a blessing from God. It is what we do with, and how before God. Not to disrespect Him. I do thank God for His forgiveness. Thank you for sharing. ((Hugs)) 🙂

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    1. Thank you for this encouragement Betty Jo, I agree, we need to share and lift each other up, out of our shame, so that we can honour God’s forgiveness and covering of us. Lots of love, L

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