Proverbs 12 made me think of the ways in which God has transformed me over the course of my marriage. So I thought I’d include some anecdotes, with some verses. Sometimes people (including me before I knew Jesus) think that being spiritual means stepping out of reality. But it doesn’t. We are humans; we have a spirit, a soul and body. All three make me. Being transformed by God includes all of me. It includes the day to day and the ordinary. When I read Proverbs 12 I simply remembered situations when I saw the truth of the words. I wasn’t necessarily ‘practicing’ them or ‘stepping into them’ because I’d just read them that day, I hadn’t. However, today when I read them I thought of these stories. See how far I get in My 10 minute challenge… (HAHA make that 30minutes….oops) Have a great day!
Proverbs 12:1 says,
Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge,
but he who hates reproof is stupid.
I remember the first big fight I had with my husband over housework, more specifically about me not doing it when he wanted me to do it.
I remember the sudden realisation, as I stood in the hallway, and he beside the dining table with only the vacuum cleaner between us; that here was my beautiful Christian husband, saying exactly the same things, that my horrible, abusive defacto ex-boyfriend had also said only 5 years before, only my husband said them without throwing the hot iron at me.
There must have been a lightening bold because all of a sudden, I accepted the reproof, I wanted to be disciplined. I understood that my completely random ways were ok as a single but difficult to live with, and there may just be a different way.
So I asked for his advice.
Proverbs 12:4 says,
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband,
but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.
I remember reading this scripture before our wedding day and praying that God would give me this crown, that I would be worthy of it. It scared me, the thought of always being excellent for my husband, didn’t the very idea defy all feminism? But here I was getting married, and nowhere in my feminist upbringing had I ever been encouraged to enter domestic bliss or bring a child into this world. The excellence I had been encouraged towards was purely commercial or worthy of celebrity.
But I couldn’t deny that I agreed that to be un-excellent would be disaster. So I decided to excel at wifedom. HAHA, how naive I was! that has been one troublesome promise to keep!
Proverbs 12:9 says,
Better to be lowly and have a servant
than to play the great man and lack bread.
I did have a cleaner, at one of the lowest points of my life, she was a ray of sunshine! I had never thought it would be possible to ‘look up to’ a servant and learn from them, but she taught me that it was. She made serving desirable. Now at times when I am humbled out of my pretences, and I still have them, I notice that the bread I lack is the word of the Lord.
Proverbs 12:10 says,
Whoever is righteous has regard for the life of his beast,
but the mercy of the wicked is cruel.
I have always loved animals, I have had the whole zoo but my husband is a little less keen. After we had kids we had fish, which we neglected, the last one lived FOREVER! Every breath it took mocked our cruelty. I’d walk past and feel the judgement emanating from the tank. Despite the fact that that fish was a cannibal, I still knew it needed my mercy and I withheld it. It’s suffering has saved the lives of so many others. When it eventually died, I could finally agree with husband that, “No, we do not need any pets until we can look after them with ‘righteous regard’!”
Proverbs 12:14 says,
From the fruit of his mouth a man is satisfied with good,
and the work of a man’s hand comes back to him.
It made me think of all the gentle ways my husband has convinced me that we could wait, that he ‘could build the such and such’ and save us a fortune. I look around the almost completed house at all the amazing work he has done alongside our builder and I think, Yes it will come back to him. In a very satisfying way.
The vexation of a fool is known at once,
but the prudent ignores an insult.
This makes me think of 3-5 year olds and their mothers, in other words the last 9 years of our lives…. Ignore, ignore…ouch.
Proverbs 12:18 says,
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
This makes me think of fights with my kids during which I completely lost it, and also afterwards when we patched things up and moved forward, stronger than before.
Proverbs 12:25 says,
25 Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down,
but a good word makes him glad.
This is one I’m working on at the moment, trying to say positive stuff and smile in the face of the anxious people in my home…… I don’t know how I’m going yet….
Proverbs 12:27 says,
Whoever is slothful will not roast his game,
but the diligent man will get precious wealth.
Those who went to school this week had lunch orders, because I hadn’t shopped and we ran out of lunch food. Those who were at home going to medical appointment after medical appointment had McDonalds Drive thru. We spent over $150 in two days on takeaway food that wasn’t all that nourishing anyway. Normally that many meals would cost me $30 total. I’m just saying slothfulness doesn’t pay!
Be blessed, be encouraged to read Proverbs for some simple wisdom in your life. It’s so good.
Lots of love,
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